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When Everyone Needs Me at Once
When everyone needs me at once, sensory overload can make it hard to think. Once my body settles, the guilt arrives—and I try to show my kids what it means to be human.
Stories by Mara Vale
Browse personal essays about Level 1 autism, late diagnosis, masking, burnout, and the quiet cost of appearing “fine.”
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When everyone needs me at once, sensory overload can make it hard to think. Once my body settles, the guilt arrives—and I try to show my kids what it means to be human.
The performance may end when I get home, but the cost arrives afterward—in silence, shutdown, and a body asking for rest.
The label did not create my differences. It finally gave them context—and gave me permission to stop blaming myself.
Functioning is what others can see. The cost of functioning is what often remains invisible.